Twin Chords


Imagine that, at the core of every human soul, there is a single shining golden strand. And in that strand is everything that makes a person who they are. And every time a person encounters love, their strand strengthens, glows, grows brighter in its shining.

Some strands may be tall and straight and strong, others elegantly twisting and gossamer-thin, but this one thing they all hold in common – they are the essence of a person, full of glorious wonder, a well of potential waiting to be explored, fulfilled, celebrated.

But as each strand is nourished by love, so other strands will grow alongside them. For wherever there is love, loss inevitably follows, for love and loss walk hand in hand. And every time a person encounters loss, a darker strand grows and curls around the golden core, snaking its way upwards, a lace overlay of shadows.

And sometimes a loss comes that is so full and violent and devastating and traumatic, that the darker strand quickens at a rush and the person cannot remember how to find themselves underneath it.

And when such devastating loss engulfs a core which has not first been nurtured by love and care, then the person may lose their ability to see their gleam altogether and, if they do catch a glimpse of it now and then, it is certainly not to be trusted.

These twin chords of love and loss stretch at the centre of our family. And, together, our task, through intensive love and care and nurture, is to help one another see that the golden gleam can shine more brightly among the shadows. That the darker strands can be accepted as part of who we are because love and loss entwined have a beauty and a courage all their own.

In a world that all too often thirsts and seeks for the holy grail of pure, unadulterated happiness, this can be a difficult truth to embrace. But every now and then, the clouds part, the shadows recede, the golden glow shines strongly through the latticework of loss and it is exquisite.

It happened this weekend. Music is something of a lynchpin for us. As words people, we gather lyrics that chime with our experience, singing them at the top of our lungs, often in the car.

Our latest acquisition (by Robbie Williams) starts with these words – and hearing them sung and claimed and owned yesterday by a voice that I love is some of the sweetest music I’ve ever heard:

Tether your soul to me
I will never let go completely
One day your hands will be
Strong enough to hold me

I might not be there for all your battles
But you’ll win them eventually
I’ll pray that I’m giving you all that matters
So one day you’ll say to me:

I love my life
I am powerful
I am beautiful
I am free
I love my life
I am wonderful
I am magical
I am me
I love my life

(songwriters: John McDaid, Robert Peter Williams, Gary Go
published by: lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd)

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